Have you ever noticed that when someone gets married, they often spend a ton of money to throw a big party that is often full of people that they feel obligated to invite? This is supposed to be a wonderful time in a couple’s life yet it often feels more like a burden, and an expensive one at that. There always seems to be that one (or dozen) things that goes wrong and it is often difficult for the bridge and/or groom to really sit back and enjoy the food, the drinks, and the company. There are always people that are mad they didn’t get invited or are unhappy with the food or the drink or the company. Someone always ends up complaining. Someone always ends up disappointed. And what should be a joyous time is often a difficult, burdensome event.
On the flip side, have you ever noticed that when someone dies, the family spends WAY less money to throw a big (or small) “party” that is often full of people that come because they want to, even if it’s just to “pay my respects” to the family. This is supposed to be a sad time in a family’s life yet it often feels like a celebration of life. It is an opportunity to share stories and remember fun, good times. It is an opportunity to remember the loved one’s spirit and to honor and celebrate it. Funerals bring people together, often that haven’t seen each other or spoken to each other for long periods of time. It is an opportunity to reconnect and even to reevaluate one’s life decisions regarding relationships.
Isn’t it odd that death brings about positive change and union brings about conflict?
What would happen if we LIVED our lives in the same way that we live the death of our loved ones? What would happen if we spend our time remembering one another’s spirit and work to honor and celebrate it while they are living and breathing right beside us? What would happen if we treat one another as though it is our last time together?
Only good, wonderful things would happen. We would spend our time living in a place of love and celebration instead of despair and misery. Doesn’t that sound way more fun? Doesn’t that sound way more joyful?
Each of us has the capacity to live in this way. However, it is a choice that needs to be made moment by moment. So try living, just for one day, in a place of joy, love, and celebration. Emanate this to all you come in contact with.
We all deserve to feel happy. We all deserve to feel loved. We all deserve to feel what it feels like TO love. You, yes you deserve this too.